The Colors Of A Optimistic World

1. Measure for more self-confidence: Get to know each other

If self-confidence is about knowing oneself well, the most important basis is logically to get to know oneself sufficiently. This may sound banal, but never underestimate the effectiveness of simple approaches. As already mentioned, our everyday life consists to a very large extent of decisions. Those who know each other well can quickly and safely decide for their best. People with weak self-confidence have difficulty making decisions. This is particularly serious when major decisions have to be made, such as changing jobs, moving to a new home, buying a car or something similar. But when you're clear about your strengths, weaknesses, preferences, and character traits, it's easy to do the right thing and stand by it.

Furthermore, it is essential for your self-confidence to know yourself well. You only trust someone you know. Consequently, you must also earn (back) your own trust. The better you know your strengths, the more confident you are. The more you trust yourself, the more success you will experience that will strengthen your self- confidence and self-love. The better you understand your weaknesses, the more realistic you can be with risks and avoid serious mistakes. This also strengthens confidence in oneself. The better you know what you want from life, the easier it is for you to get exactly that. As you can see, you should not take it lightly to get to know your true nature. It's worth it. But how does it work? How can you get to know yourself better?

Imagine meeting a person for the first time. What would you want to know from this person first? What questions would you ask? And what was that person supposed to find out from you? Which of your qualities would you like to highlight because you are proud of them? Get a realistic impression of what you really need to know about yourself. Find out for yourself. Get to know each other better by asking yourself the right questions. As a little help I will give you a few questions in the following. Try to answer them honestly. You are alone with this e-book, so you can be completely open and relaxed. You will be amazed, as some of these questions may make you think longer:

- Who am I, anyway?

- Am I at peace with myself and satisfied?

- If not, what exactly makes me dissatisfied?

- What do I do about this dissatisfaction?

- What are my strengths?

- What can I do particularly well?

- How often do my strengths come to the fore in everyday life?

- What are my weaknesses?

- How often do my weaknesses stand in my way?

- What is my basic attitude towards life?

- What do I want to achieve in my life?

- Am I on the right track to doing this?

- What is really important to me?

- Does what's important to me have a place in my life?

- What am I interested in and how much time do I spend?

- How would someone who met me for the first time perceive me?

- If I could wish for a change, what would it be?

Also, ask yourself very loose and simple questions. Think about what music you like to listen to, what movies you like to watch and what you prefer to eat. Call up your hobbies in front of your eyes and whether they satisfy you.

Get to know each other completely. The more accurate, the better. You will find that you can answer some questions quickly and easily, while some are difficult for you. That is quite normal and sense of exercise.

Work with the answers that come out of this exercise. Intensify what you like and what already works well in your life. Take advantage of your strengths. Don't let your weaknesses sit on you and don't let them demotivate you. Work against them! In the following you will find some help for this. Call up your goals and wishes before your eyes and make concrete plans to achieve them.

Realize that you are the most important person in your life. This is not a selfish thought, but the key to your happiness. Even if other people have a high value in your life, you are still responsible for yourself. You can only love others if you love yourself. You can only help others if you are able to help yourself. You can only be a good role model for others if you can be proud of yourself. These are logical principles of true self-consciousness. Recognize and accept your responsibility towards yourself. Your personal happiness begins with you.

Get to know the person who holds your life in their hands. So you will learn to trust and love this person.

2. Measure for more self-confidence: Be independent

If it is your life and you have full responsibility, why should it be important or decisive what other people think about you? The fear of not pleasing others or of falling into their envy strongly affects our everyday lives. We adapt our behaviour accordingly and put our own interests and wishes aside. Does that look familiar to you? Do you know that from yourself? If so, that's no reason to get upset. It's just a good time to stop.

Too many people buy status symbols they can't afford to impress others with. We lie about our interests to make a positive impression. We say "yes" when we actually mean "no" and say that we are doing well when we are doing badly in reality. All this only because we constantly think about how our counterpart perceives us. Please don't take this the wrong way: thinking about one's external impression can be helpful, but that thought should not come first. First you come! Remember: There is only one opinion about you that really counts and this is your own!

What good does it do you to please others? How does it get you ahead in life? In fact, this has only very weak and superficial advantages for you. If, for example, you buy an expensive car to impress others, you are putting yourself in an unfavourable position. Someone will perceive you for about a minute and admire you for the great vehicle. After that this person will continue again and take care of his own affairs. The other 23 hours and 59 minutes of the day you have to stand straight for the car. They must bear the high costs and full responsibility for them.

If you go to work sick to make a positive impression on your boss, do yourself no favours at all. You are endangering your health in the long term, while the praise you receive only lasts for a few minutes. The truth is that even if you don't go to work, the company you work for will continue to exist. You are primarily responsible for yourself and not for what your employer thinks about you.

If you lose weight, exercise regularly and dress well, then you should do it for yourself first and foremost. It is important that you feel comfortable in your skin, because you only have this one body. The aesthetic feelings of other people should only play a subordinate role here. Everyone has a different taste, so you can't please everyone anyway. While you use your body continuously to cope with your everyday life, other people only see it for a relatively short time. So who should he be more important to?

A self-confident person acts in his own interest and does not think about what others might think. By the way, it is interesting to note that other people are more attracted to self-confident and self-determined personalities anyway. In plain language, this means that the stronger you build up and expand your self-confidence, the more attractive and desirable you will be in the eyes of others.

Be independent of foreign opinions and do your very own thing. A self-confident person recognizes and understands that responsibility means power. When you let other people decide how you dress, what you buy or how you spend your time, you give them power. Power over your life that would actually be better off in your own hands. But if you take full responsibility, you have full power. It's entirely up to you.

3. Measure for more self-confidence: Leave the comfort zone

In my coaching I determine their comfort zone together with my clients. The comfort zone is the nest of habits that we have built up over many years and in which we make ourselves comfortable. Always the same people, places, activities, beliefs, etc. Since this term is often misunderstood, I will give you a concrete example of the classic comfort zone, as we know it from everyday life:

Our example person is called Lisa. Lisa is 30 years old, working and a rather introverted person. She would claim of herself to be little self-confident and would like to change something about it. If you look at their everyday lives, you see that they follow a pattern. The respective days are very similar to each other and there is very little variety in them. Lisa goes to work regularly, comes home afterwards, takes care of the household and then makes herself comfortable in front of the television or in the armchair with a book. She has known her friends for a very long time and if she spends time with them, then either on the phone, at her or her friends' home or in her favourite pub. She is rather sceptical towards new acquaintances and is afraid to dissolve inner blockades or to fight long existing fears. Instead, she incorporates detours into her life that avoid confrontations and unpleasant situations. It's hard for her to get involved with new things. She doesn't like trying out new foods, reading books that don't fit her favourite genre, or testing new sports.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? Can a few of these points also be applied to your situation? If so, then that's nothing to be ashamed of. It's convenient to set up a comfort zone. But you pay a high price for it: it costs us self-confidence and above all self-confidence.

The happiness and self-confidence you long for are outside your comfort zone. The whole thing is based on a simple thought: if all these things were already within your comfort zone, you wouldn't crave them. However, since you are not satisfied, but want to change something, you will have to break new ground. You have to dissolve the boundaries and leave the good old comfort zone. Not for nothing is there a saying that says, "Life begins outside the comfort zone."

Bring variety into your everyday life. Meet new people. Try different sports or a new hobby. Look at a movie you wouldn't have been interested in otherwise. Visit a restaurant with your friends where you have never been before. Don't go to the cinema for the umpteenth time on a Saturday night, but go billiards or bowling. Take part in a crime thriller dinner and interact with complete strangers. Face unpleasant challenges and even your fears.

Why would you do all that? Because all this takes courage. Because it not only enriches you with new experiences, but also encourages you to trust yourself. Every single time you venture out of the comfort zone and experience something satisfying, you strengthen your self-confidence. You notice that not only have you suffered no damage, but you have also had fun, learned new things and have grown a bit as a personality. This will give you the strength and courage to have more positive experiences that will strengthen your self-confidence even more!

You have to try some things in life to find out what you really like or don't like. Think of your favourite food and a dish that you find terrible. In order to find out what you particularly like or don't like, you had to try these things for the first time. They got involved in something new. In the same way, there are still unbelievably many things outside your comfort zone that you will love. They just don't know it yet. Of course, you will also try things that you don't like after all. However, this is part of the learning process and also strengthens your self-confidence: one more thing that you can say with certainty that does not suit you or your personality.

Never believe that you have heard, seen or got to know everything. Life is unbelievably extensive and multi- faceted. We can't "finish learning." Every day there is something new to experience and discover. The whole world is your comfort zone. Explore them!

4. Measure for more self-confidence: Cultivate what is unique

Warren Buffet is probably the most famous investor and one of the financially wealthiest people in the world. When asked about the secrets of his success at his major shareholder meetings, he likes to tell the story of the genie in the bottle and the car. She goes like this:

Imagine being 18 years old again. During a walk you will meet a genie in a bottle. He says: "Since you have found me, I will grant you a wish. I'll give you a car of your choice, no matter how expensive it costs. You can choose which one you want. The whole thing has a little catch, though: it'll be the only car you'll ever drive. You can't sell it or trade it for another. There will always be this one. So choose wisely and make a good decision." They think for a while and weigh different factors. Finally you make a choice and share your decision with the genie in the bottle. He nods briefly, disappears and where he was before, there is now the brand new car that you have wished for. You are pleased, but you also know that you will have to handle it responsibly in the future. After all, it should accompany you all your life. So take good care of it. They wash it regularly, fill it up with the best fuels, do not miss any maintenance and do not stress it beyond its limits. In addition, you can have even the smallest damage repaired immediately. In this way, you will make sure that this one car will remain loyal to you all your life and that you will always enjoy it.

This story is a symbol that should open our eyes. The irony behind this is that we would be willing to maintain a car impeccably just because we know that we can never get another. However, we often neglect our own body, although it is much more important and truly unique. It is not a desired object from a story, but actually our most important tool to cope with everyday life. Your body is the home of your consciousness or your soul. Since you identify with your body when you look in the mirror, it is directly related to your self-confidence.

This is not just about aesthetics, personal taste or pleasing others. It's about feeling good in your skin. It's about health and personal satisfaction. If you are dissatisfied with your health or the shape of your body, this will also have a negative effect on your self-confidence. But you like to look in the mirror, you like to identify with what you see. You are proud of yourself and thus strengthen your self-acceptance and self-confidence.

Your body is a status symbol. You can't buy, steal or win a beautifully shaped body in a lottery. You'll have to do something about it yourself. This simple fact is firmly anchored in the subconscious of every human being. Therefore, when you see a sporty person, you automatically know that he or she is a disciplined, persevering and self-loving person. Accordingly, you can trigger all this in yourself by living a healthy and sporty life. The goal here is not to impress others. The goal is to impress yourself and to convey a positive feeling. Start looking in the mirror with pleasure. If you are dissatisfied with your current form, do something about it. Start being proud of yourself and your progress. What's stopping you now?

Your body is unique and more important than any material possession. Look after him accordingly. Eat a healthy diet and exercise sufficiently. Better health ensures more vitality and joie de vivre. This in turn increases your self- confidence and self-confidence. Always remember: your body is not a dream item that you have received from a genie in a bottle, but your real companion throughout your whole life. It is directly linked to your quality of life. In view of this, can it really be too strenuous to do sport now and then or to refrain from unhealthy temptations?

5. Measure for more self-confidence: Smile!

Yes, there we have again one of these banal tips, how one knows them from the advisor industry. Don't you worry. I don't recommend laughing yoga and I won't advise you to walk through your neighborhood laughing out loud. No, I just want to show you that great results do not always require great deeds. Often it is also the little things in which the great potential lies. So smile often! What's the matter with you? It's simple:

Imagine your normal everyday life. They meet hundreds of people a day, sometimes even thousands. All these people pass you by without attracting your attention. There are only a few exceptions and these only occur when someone looks particularly good or smiles at you. Think about it. If you don't interact with anyone, a visit to the supermarket is as boring as ever. However, if the lady or gentleman at the checkout gives you a friendly smile, your mood suddenly rises. You will remember the moment with pleasure even later. That's because we're attracted to smiling people. We are powerless against it, because it is anchored in our subconscious. We combine a cheerful and warm smile with something positive. So we find smiling people particularly attractive, sympathetic and attractive. What do you think makes people smile in photos? Right, because there's no way to look any better. Your smile reveals your personal chocolate side.

Now you may be wondering what this has to do with your self-confidence. A good question! In general, laughter and smiles are about happiness, contentment, happiness hormones, etc. In our special context, however, it is about the effect on others! If you look at another person expressionlessly, he will either not perceive you or look back unkindly. But if you smile at a stranger, he will be happy and will smile as well. It's an unwritten law. You suddenly receive positive feedback from the reactions of your fellow human beings, which increases your self- esteem.

Yeah, we've already dealt with the fact that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you. It is. Nevertheless, we can use confirmation by others as a tool to increase our self-esteem. We just shouldn't make it depend on it!

Many people have a weak self-confidence because they do not consider themselves attractive. It comes just in time to get a smile every now and then and to have the feeling of being desired. But that smile won't come to you on its own. As a positive thinking person, it is your job to take the first step. You're also doing something good. It can mean a lot to a stranger to get a smile when he is having a bad day or generally going through a difficult time. It costs you nothing and gives you something very positive back. So why wouldn't you?

Get used to smiling more often. Irrespective of your self-confidence, this will also lead to positive improvements in many other areas of your life. By the way, it also strengthens self-love to see yourself smiling in the mirror.

Try it out. Do not practice an artificial smile to advertise for toothpaste. Smile warmly and sincerely. See how much better and more attractive you suddenly look. Be proud of your reflection. After all, you only have this one.

On some days we find it difficult to think positively and smile. Therefore I would like to give you a small, very effective tip on the way: Trick your brain every now and then! Go to a place where you are all alone and force a smile for about a full minute. Seriously. Seriously. Just pull the corners of your mouth apart. By straining the facial muscles, your brain will think that you are smiling and have a reason to be happy. That's why it'll release happiness hormones. You don't think so? Try it out! You'll be amazed.