I Love a Married Man! What to Do?

**I Love a Married Man! What to Do?**

This podcast is likely being listened to by a woman involved with a married man, someone who has developed overwhelming feelings for him. She misses him, struggles to sleep at night, and can’t seem to let go of her phone, hoping he’ll call.

She dreams of a future together, believing he will soon leave his "kikimora," and they will build a life filled with happiness. She waits for a year, two, three, five, and even twenty. Yet he doesn’t rush; he shows no signs of leaving or making concrete plans. He promises her, “Just a little longer, and we’ll be together. Once the children finish school, grow up—or become more self-aware.”

In my practice, I have encountered many mistresses who, like flags, have transitioned from one relationship to another with the same man. He was married, then divorced, remarried—and she still remained the mistress.

Relationships with married men can take several forms:

1. **Casual Involvement**: Some women enter into relationships without any desire to marry. They enjoy their time together, possibly even going on trips. These women prefer married men, understanding they won’t be seen frequenting bars or parties. Yes, there’s a wife, but he has settled down enough for a superficial romance.

2. **Mercenary Goals**: Some women pursue relationships strictly for material benefits—money, gifts, apartments, and seduction. For them, it doesn’t matter whether he’s married or not. They prioritize material advantages above all else.

3. **True Love for a Married Man**: Then there are those who genuinely love a married man.

It’s crucial to discern where love ends and something unhealthy begins. If your relationship feels like a whirlwind of anxiety, sorrow, apathy, and emotional oscillation, you’re not in love; you’re in a neurotic union.

Often, these relationships are codependent. The mistress may exhibit an avoidant personality type, drawn to relationships characterized by distance—where the man belongs to another woman or is in another city or country.

Once he finally commits to her, she often becomes disillusioned and wants nothing more to do with him.

**Love is a Building Energy!**  
It is characterized by warmth, care, emotional closeness, mutual support, shared interests, and values. None of these qualities are inherent in the role of a mistress.

Being involved with a married man often indicates underlying issues with self-worth and mental health. While it may seem exhilarating when a man runs to her, believing she is captivating, the reality is far more complex.

The consequences for the mistress are detrimental to both psyche and health. If she visits a doctor for a hormonal checkup, she’ll likely be shocked by the results. A full health assessment may reveal multiple issues. Where do these come from?

The mistress is under constant stress, which wreaks havoc on her body. Stress hormones disrupt the entire system, leading to significant health problems.

There are plenty of worthy men available who want to build meaningful relationships. In fact, there are more eligible men than you might think. The issue is that mistresses often don’t seek such partners. They remain trapped in a dependency akin to an addiction. 

To escape this painful cycle, one must put in the effort. 

If you genuinely want to break free from these neurotic patterns and cultivate genuine love, seek personal growth and development. Join my paid online programs and take the first step towards a life where married men, constant stress, and pain are behind you. Embrace a future filled with respect, trust, and meaningful connections. Don’t wait for him to choose you—choose yourself first!